And of course we finished our day off with a nice ice-cream treat
Good times!!!

I, Helen, take you, Bryan, to be my lawfully wedded husband, secure in the knowledge that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner in life, and my one true love. On this special and holy day, I give to you in the presence of God and all these witnesses my pledge to stay by your side as your faithful wife in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, as well as through the good times and the bad. (the day Bryan fell in love with me - June 25th is now Red Polka Dot Day in our family)
We had breakfast and in a few days left for our vacations. As we spent long four weeks away from each other, I realized how attached I have become and how much I missed him.
We started dating in August.
(our first official dating photo - September 3rd, 2007)
For New Year's I flew to Arizona to meet Bryan's family.
(visiting Bryan's family in Arizona for the first time - Grand Canyon)
As I look back to our dating days, I am realizing how much we sought to please each other. Everything we did was geared towards serving and loving. We spent every available moment together.
We walked... a lot!
For our first Valentine's Day I made Bryan a nice breakfast (yes - these are heart-shaped pancakes on the picture) in the morning...
... and in the evening Bryan treated me to an exquisite meal.
We had a great time - and I loved dating him. He was the most wonderful person to be with.
As the reality of marriage settled in, I wondered what happened. I no longer had the butterflies. I blamed Bryan for many things that he could have been doing better. I was often frustrated and annoyed.
Until
I realized
This has NOTHING to do with my husband!!!
I was the one who had changed. It was no longer enough for me to simply hear, "I love you". It was no longer enough to keep getting flowers. I wanted more. I wanted him to pick up his socks off the floor and put them into the laundry hamper. I wanted him to make more money. I wanted him to be more responsible. I wanted him to read my mind and know exactly which mood I was in. I wanted him to want to do the dishes (mainly because I didn't). Somehow I held him to a much higher standard now in our marriage than I did during our dating days... when just being with him was enough.
So... What's Next??
My next step was letting go of unrealistic expectations and simply enjoying our marriage. It worked for me. I may still sometimes get frustrated - but I am sure he has as many reasons (if not more) to be frustrated with me. God did not call me to be right. God called me to serve and love. And this is what I am resolving to do.
We went to Central Park today and took "couple pictures" - just like when we first started dating. And then we walked to Times Square. Just walking and talking and simply enjoying each other.
Think today: Do you have unspoken or unrealistic expectations of your spouse?

Just a quick slideshow to share with you all the fun we had during Shrek week at our Sidewalk Sunday School sites:
What Jesus Demands from the World (by John Piper)
Startling Beauty (by Heather Gemmen)
Crazy Love (by Francis Chan)
Ordinary Resurrections (by Jonathan Kozol)
Top row: Jason from USA, Janelle from Canada, Susi from Germany, Helen from Belarus
Bottom row: Bryan from USA, Patty from Mexico, Nadine from Germany
Jason and Nadine are our wonderful interns for these four months and so far they've done incredibly well. Feel free to lift them and the rest of my team up in your prayers as we minister to the kids in NYC.
The semester started off with a week of lessons on Easter. It rained for the first couple of days but it provided an amazing opportunity to teach children and their parents in a smaller group setting and really explain to them that Jesus died to open the way to God and He is alive today by the power of God who raised Him from the dead. We kept sharing that news with everyone even a little boy at McDonald's whose mom asked me to explain to them the meaning of Easter.
And even though my birthday is not until tomorrow - I had an incredible week celebrating my birthday with Sunday School kids. The kids made lots of cards and the team baked lots of cupcakes - and we all had fun. And today I had a great time just being with my friends - having our nails done and barbecuing outside. I am so grateful for my friends.
I have been very busy with ministry-related events... and even though I miss having lots of time in the mornings to have a longer devotional, enjoy my breakfast slowly and catching up on blogging and all my friends' blogs - the exhilaration that comes from seeing the smiles on the kids faces during the fun parts of our programs or the peace that comes upon them during our lessons is well worth it. Please know that even though we've been busy and failed to keep in touch - we are truly grateful for friends like you and we're still serving Him faithfully.

Invitation to Summit VI from Christian Alliance for Orphans on Vimeo.
Our choice of the day however was a small place called Max's - located away from the busy tourist area.
Max's Cafe boasts free Wi-Fi and a full espresso bar.
(We ended up having lunch @ Max's and here's the photo of my Nachos Supreme
- doesn't look too exciting but it was oh so yummy)
(aren't these ice-cream bars so super cute??? - they were yummy too)
... to be continued ...