Friday, July 30, 2010
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I don't know about you - but whenever we get lost driving somewhere it takes me no longer than five minutes of aimless driving to say, "Honey, why don't we just stop and ask someone for directions?". As women we often make men the subjects of many jokes about their gender-specific resolve to simply figure everything out by themselves.
Sadly if we take our jokes outside of the contest of driving – women are often the ones who fail to ask for directions. Directions from our husbands as to where we are going with our lives, our families, our children, our jobs, our future.
Instead we are subtly manipulating our husbands to make the decisions that we consider the best at the time.
I have only been married for two years yesterday and I am still learning to take directions from my husband. My biggest battle - which I believe many strong Christian women are dealing with today - was "What if the leading will never happen?" What if when I do ask my husband for a plan, he just stares blankly and says something in the lines of, "I do not know, why don’t we decide what’s for dinner first".
Through the mistakes made earlier in my own marriage as well as the observation of many other couples, I have learned six valuable lessons on following your husband's lead.
Lesson 1: Do NOT take it upon yourself! One very important lesson to learn is that the moment you take the initiative and take upon yourself the job of leading your family – you may never be able to give it up and your husband may never step up to the plate.
Lesson 2: Pray. Pray lots. Pray often. You can never underestimate the power of prayer or the work of the Holy Spirit in the life of your beloved.
Lesson 3: Submit. You may give your input but whenever your husband does finally make a decision about your life – you need to submit to his guidance.
Lesson 4: Praise him. It is important to affirm your husband when he makes a right choice. That will boost his confidence and encourage him to lead you more.
Lesson 5: Give him room to fail. At times your husband may make a faulty decision. You must give him room for error and forgive.
Lesson 6: Have faith. Have faith in your husband's abilities to lead your family (even if a faulty decision had been made earlier). Believe in your husband. He knows whether you genuinely think he can do it or if you're just expecting him to fall flat on his face. But what's even more important is that you have faith in your God. Whatever the circumstances were that united your husband and you with the bond of marriage - you are married now. And that is a sacred thing in the eyes of our Lord. Have faith in God and trust Him to carry your family through any challenges if you follow His principles of submission.
Do you struggle with any of these? I sure do. What will you do to help your husband lead you today?
Sunday, July 25, 2010
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Monday, July 5, 2010
I have learned a lot of things from my mother about marriage without her trying to teach me.
FAITHFULLNESS - she stood by my father's side always: through the heights of his teaching and writing career and through the valley of his terrible sickness - truly through the good times and the bad.
TENACITY - it took a lot of determination to keep our family through the critical changes in history (fall of the USSR, change of the government and all social structure), and through the critical changes of our family (getting our own apartment and sudden progression of Dad's illness).
RESPECT - I watched my mom live with her in-laws in the same small 2-bedroom apartment for 13 years (ok, so I only remember maybe the last six as I was 11 when we moved) and I never remember her arguing with them over anything. She was always quiet and respectful of their opinions.
FRUGALITY - oh how I wish I were smarter to learn more. My mom never wasted a penny. She knows all the prices for everything all over the city and she would go to great lengths to but things cheaper, to build smart yet delicious meals around what's on sale.
DILIGENCE - she never stopped. Our house was always clean, laundry always done, homework always checked, food always prepared. And all that on top of her full-time job.
And - most importantly - LOVE and SELF-SACRIFICE. Her whole life is dedicated to our family and all her choices are made for our benefit (at least within her understanding of what's best for us).
As I look back I remember times when in my anger I would resolve to never become like my mother. And now - how I wish I had learned more while I was still under her roof.
- you love me and take care of me
- you pray for me and with me
- you are always there when I really need you
- you bring me Starbucks
- you’re never too proud to say “I’m sorry”
- you want to spend the rest of your life with me
- you open the doors for me
- you carry heavy things
- you make Thanksgiving turkeys
- you are quick to make peace
- you love me even when I have bad attitude
- you come on Sidewalk with me
- you always assure me that I am beautiful
- you always make sure I have water on my nightstand
There’re so many reasons… even as I pasted this list into this post I could think of few others…
But I think the most important one would be -
YOU MAKE ME BETTER!!!
You encourage me to see the best in people.
You set an example by forgiving those who hurt us.
You reach out to others even when I feel that they've used up their chances.
You are compassionate, gentle, loving, and kind.
You stand up for what is right.
You are moved by injustice and suffering.
I LOVE YOU!!!
Sunday, July 4, 2010
We had a nice meal - oh boy! these kids can eat!
And of course we finished our day off with a nice ice-cream treat
Saturday, July 3, 2010
I know that God answers prayers. I do. I am a children pastor, after all.
I know that when you pray God can move mountains and obstacles. I've seen it (even in my own life before).
I know that there is absolutely NOTHING impossible for God. I believe it.
But today... My praise and gratitude get stuck in my throat. I am overwhelmed. I have nothing to say. I am amazed. Grateful. Slightly embarrassed. Surprised. Speechless.
On Monday Courtney from Women Living Well encouraged us to ask our husbands how we can pray for them and do so daily. I did ask (see my post here) and I did pray.
I prayed for God to give my husband wisdom to make the right choices - and I have already noticed how he was becoming more decisive when I needed him to be. I prayed for promotion (we were hoping in September) but already this Friday Bryan received a phone call from his supervisor about setting up his promotion interview within the next few weeks.
I am ...
... grateful ...