"Admire = to have a high opinion of; esteem or respect."
OK, so if you know me at all - you have to know this about me:
On a level of 1 to 10 my skillfullness in Words of Affirmation is...
Negative Seventeen [deep sigh]
Yes, it's true. I am not good telling people what I appreciate about them. Ironically, I am married to the man whose main proverbial love language is [drum roll please]... yes, indeed - Words of Affirmation... [even deeper helpless sigh].
It's not that I do not love him or do not notice the little (and big) things that he does for me... it's just that I feel weird and awkward... even insane... saying it. And knowing that he needs me to say it - still does not help.
Last Thanksgiving I wrote him a list of all the things that he does that I am thankful for. Here is that list:
- you love me and take care of me
- you pray for me and with me
- you are always there when I really need you
- you bring me Starbucks
- you’re never too proud to say “I’m sorry”
- you want to spend the rest of your life with me
- you open the doors for me
- you carry heavy things
- you make Thanksgiving turkeys
- you are quick to make peace
- you love me even when I have bad attitude
- you come on Sidewalk with me
- you always assure me that I am beautiful
- you always make sure I have water on my nightstand
There’re so many reasons… even as I pasted this list into this post I could think of few others…
But I think the most important one would be -
YOU MAKE ME BETTER!!!
You encourage me to see the best in people.
You set an example by forgiving those who hurt us.
You reach out to others even when I feel that they've used up their chances.
You are compassionate, gentle, loving, and kind.
You stand up for what is right.
You are moved by injustice and suffering.
I LOVE YOU!!!
Let the wife make the husband glad to come home,
and let him make her sorry to see him leave.
(Martin Luther)
2 comments:
Hey Helen,
I found your blog through Courtney's. Just wanted to leave a comment for you... I don't think you need to apologize for the cheese! I am in the same exact boat as you... I feel guilty about it, but it is SO HARD for me and I don't get why... I even think about trying to write things down for him sometimes or write him notes or something and I just put it off. So I will try to do it today! Thanks for spurring me on.
Carly
You wrote a great post and it's never cheesy for us to go on about how much we love our husbands. We're the lucky ones that have great men! <3
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